(NOTE: This post is a follow up to my article in salon.com:http://www.salon.com/life/feature/2011/06/18/father_after_death_open2011) “Teach your children well. Their father’s hell did slowly go by. And feed them on their dreams….” –Graham Nash Frank Sinatra is haunting Mrs. Muse and me. Not our house. We don’t wake to the sound of a ghostly rat pack stumbling around…